That doesn't mean you shouldn't love her, though. Don't drown her in a sea of flowers, either. In spite of common belief, loving a woman will not make her feel sexually attracted to you. Even if you love her, it is not enough. You must captivate her interest if you hope to win her affection. And he needs feelings besides love if he wants to be attractive.
OK, I won't be rude and insist. Imagine that the sultry woman in the first photo I showed you is replaced by your grandmother, who expresses her desire to spend time with you and assures you of her love. What effect does her proclamation of love have on you?
If that's the case, then it doesn't make sense that she would want you more because of it.
That's not how life works. Affection and sexual attraction are not the same thing. Consider concentrating on Attraction if you'd like him to be with you. You can admit your feelings for her later on.
Don't ask her out on a date if you want to win her over.
This is a common strategy used by men to win a woman's affection. There's no hope here; this doesn't work either. If she does not feel any attraction for you, she has no reason to pursue a relationship with you.
Therefore, that's the wrong choice to make. If you're not attracted to the person you're proposing to, you might as well propose marriage. Honestly, I think you should just end things. If there is chemistry between you, it will develop on its own. You shouldn't even suggest it to him.
Therefore, prioritize Attraction over Relationship.
Don't hold her up to impossible standards.
However, you shouldn't worship her as a deity. Avoid telling or thinking that she is the key to your happiness. Give him no room to maneuver. He has no interest in it. She hopes you find success and contentment in your life before you come into hers.
She despises the idea that you might rely on her for fulfillment. The appeal is immediately lost after hearing that.It occurred to me that you show your dependence on her in a variety of ways, including the ones listed below:
You're happy to engage in meaningless chatter for long periods of time (which do not particularly interest you) You can be called upon at any time to perform a wide range of services with no expectation of payment (often giving up important activities for you)
You sit there and listen to her tell you stories about her exes while also protecting her from the bad things they have to say.
If you can relate to the scenarios above, you're engaging in Good Boy conduct, which will have the opposite effect of what you intend and will push the relationship further into the friend zone. Read Dr. Robert Glover's book No More Good Guys to learn more about this destructive pattern of behavior.
Like I said, there are other factors at play besides the absence of a lady that could be contributing to your current feelings of discontentment and emptiness. As an added bonus, I'll tell you right out: a woman will only serve to magnify the positive aspects of your life. Assuming you're in a good mood when you meet her, your time together will be even more enjoyable.
If you're missing her and finding yourself lonely, sad, and miserable, you could be wondering when you two will finally be... you get the picture.
While we're on the topic of what not to do if you want to win over a woman, I'd like to offer you this: I've put together a free Guide detailing the three biggest mistakes that men make when trying to woo a woman. What follows is a link to a free PDF version of the book.
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